Intercourse Problems Free Men-Women

Intercourse Problems Free Men-Women
I. Meaning promiscuityWhen we review the history in our own country and world history in general, it will show a lot of the same problems, although essentially the same event different time. In the story of Romeo and Juliet romance that well-known, which tells a love story in the days of the past, it is clear that at that time in Europe there is no association that is free.Also from the autobiography of queen-queen and royal family members, a princess is not acquainted with the prince when he proposed.
They had met after the application is received. Which party has not disputed that apply, pangerankah party or parties puterikah. Marriage is a result of negotiations between the state and the royal family concerned.
Sparkling World (clubbing)
The same was seen in the Eastern hemisphere continents. The examples are countless can we draw from our own country's history. Even if the memories of their parents can still reach deep into their ancestral history, surely the same will be found too, that men and women hardly know each other before marriage or family consent is reached and they entered the wedding lives.
Indeed, from a variety of examples and comparisons earlier era can be said that the "other other first right now." Because there are differences between the era to era, it also faced other problems.

Previously there was no school psychologist, who must complete a personal issue school students low, medium and above or in Universities. Even the schools only accept male students. Opportunity to attend school for many children a woman has not enjoyed in some countries in Asia.
Thankfully, Indonesia is one country in Asia that has become a pioneer for educational opportunities and accomplishment in the school is open to young girls and boys.
Thanks to the emancipation of women leaders R.A. Kartini and other mothers who have fought for the fate of women, men and women obtain the same educational opportunities. By obtaining the right to education and schooling opportunities are equal between men and women, of course, easily interwoven promiscuity among men and women. Women are no longer secluded, no longer obtain a limited lessons and teaching in their own homes. Women young and old can leave rumali to study at sekolali in other cities and even abroad without the direct supervision of parents concerned.
Given the same opportunity to attend school, the men and women can meet face to be free. They can discuss, discuss issues related to the lessons at school. Issues discussed ranged certainly not always just about learning and education in schools. One's life also includes other aspects in addition to education. Other aspects kellidupan often Pula causing problems then discussed together.
Since education in kindergarten, already seen that there are certain children are often clustered. They feel themselves fit and appropriate, so that every time when given the opportunity to play they would get together and hang out with friends who are always the same. When they were kids not seen a clear difference between male and female children. They gathered with friends who fit no matter the type, male or female.
At one point seen later that the grouping is more common among children alike. Son women prefer to hang out and tell her guts on women friends, and peers child getting mad men playing with girls, because they are more fun to play rough. They do not like the softness and smoothness of young girls. Moreover, female children is difficult to stem the flow of tears, so often scorned by male friends.
Although it was the association between men and women will be allowed but restrict their own friends with similar sepergaulannya only. Association with the opposite type of feeling is not happy, is not peaceful and awkward. Instead of friends gave a kind of pleasure which was looking for and can only be obtained from the same friends, male or female.
Only in the next period will arise more freely mingle, mingle with male friends and female friends. Curiosity of young people are also focused on curiosity will be the friends of another kind. Want to know this is accommodated in promiscuity. In a free society, youth are able to find out about the nature and personality of his friends. From the diversity of friends acquired through free association he gained extensive knowledge about the specific qualities of women and men as well as distinctive features of these maing.Is that free association can be interpreted association that is free from everything. Free association without regard to moral values ​​and social? Humans are social beings who are responsible. Humans as social beings who are responsible not possible to live free from everything. Humans are able to live free from the shackles of oppression, freedom from fear, freedom from persecution, freedom from physical and psychological suffering. But man can not live apart from the relationship, either directly or indirectly, from other individuals. Reasonable man can not live without responsibility.
People can mingle freely but in an attachment to social. Humans live in the attachment of responsibility for social welfare. Also young people can mingle freely, but must not ignore social responsibility.
In a free society, hanging out with anyone, anywhere, anytime, always keep in mind:1) The responsibility for the welfare of fellow human beings.2) Respect the rights and dignity of women and men.3) Hold fast to the social norms, moral values ​​and ethics, and legal norms.
Promiscuity among men and women can become socially that is not free anymore. At one point her social narrowed and only includes two people, a boy and a girl.Promiscuity means that extensive interactions among many young men and women. Does not emphasize the grouping of a compact between two people, but among many youth. Who had limited interaction between the two young people would mean the existence of a peculiarity, so people say that both this young couple dating.
Recognizing Adolescent turmoil.
Advising teens not as easy to advise the children. They no longer a kindergarten or elementary school child who can sit when the parents speak. Adolescent age, which began about 14 years, is the age in which humans have so banvak changes in both organs tubuhnva and on psychological aspects. Those who awalnva children, then enter the period of puberty, followed by the period sclanjutnya, where hormones strongly influence the physical and psychological, tend to experience a variety of turbulence temperament.
Juvenile Delinquency
There was a time the kids quiet, suddenly become talkative and jaunty as a teenager. Or the reverse, turned into a quiet and shy, but when the kids used to hang out is very clever. Why is that? For indeed scjak puberty, a child will change the character. This condition is somewhat kehingungan memhuat menghadapinva parents because their properties vary according to mood.
Trying to advise their meaning must be very clever to read the "battlefield", set the strategy to avoid misunderstandings. Because, when it's a misunderstanding, bukannva good communication is established but the quarrel. Tnengenali better we used to like what the old adolescent behavior bear all of this: sort children, has been inappropriate, not yet spelled out any adult.These early adolescent will usually have the following characteristics:
Worried about the physical developmentChildren will experience the anxiety, due to notable physical changes, ie, Adam's apple grow, the hairs on the entire body, as well as whiskers, and having wet dreams. When I was a junior high school, they still wear shorts, so that the feathers on the legs would seem clear, and fair if they were so embarrassed due to teasing friends. Sounds too changed, becoming "cracked". This is all due to start its dominant hormone testosterone.
While in girls, menstruation began more regularly, sometimes accompanied by pain and posing. Increasingly enlarged breasts. All of the changes it made him anxious, afraid to be known by other friends, shunned, and so uncomfortable own.
Strong appetite stimulusDue to hormone fluctuations, they increasingly feel the sexual appetite stimulation. There are two types of responses, which become highly reactive, or even ashamed, and hid it. Just heard the story a little grazed in the direction of sex alone, was excited and very curious. Most teenagers would have been very male opponent once locked eyes with jenis.Tiap children have different responses, are also changing. At this age, their libido is also volatile, easily aroused by the slightest things smelling of sex. This is why parents perk gives basic morals, ethics, and religion, because without the foundation that children tend to be easily tempted. Sexual orientation began to take shape. If not properly directed by a parent, can occur in cases where the child being gay or lesbian, even bisexual.
Make an appearanceAs a result of physical changes that, so this young teen posing with her appearance. There are trying to cover the changes earlier, there is also a fact wanted to nonjolkannya with pride and feel different from other friends who have not experienced. So do not be surprised if they become very concerned about the appearance, linger in front of the mirror, lock myself in my room, diligent to the salon, and shopping for fashionable clothes.
II. DatingWhen we see the physical growth of young people, then we get the impression that they are having a great height growth. Youth, not just equal the height of their parents, even exceeding. Teenagers already looks physically mature and want to match the per-adult-made actions. Also the influence of literature, magazines, romance books and movies causes youth to imitate the ways of behavior and communication that they can be copied easily. The most easy to imitate it "game of love" that many take as the core than the movie. Top of imitation is seen in the association between young people that is going out.
Often the question arises, bail: the parents or the sons and daughters, whether dating is justifiable or not. This question is difficult to answer. In answering this question always must be considered some fak tor:a) Age of the young people involved in the courtship.b) The nature of courtship.c) The degree of courtship.
a. AgeAge factor is very important. The older the youth, they are also expected to show more maturity. Maturity level is necessary so that they can consider with good nature and extent of dating in relation to the limits of decency. Increasingly younger age, more and more difficult to consider the limits of decency and time sharing. Often seen students S.M.P. have started hanging out too close with a friend the other types. He also mingle too closely with friends of a kind. Association that is too close to the opposite sex and meetings that are too often with friends like, talking and playing music without limit of time, eventually causing the decline in school achievement. Report card with red numbers cause 'association child "or" courting "the blame.
From this example it is clear that age. who are too young cause of the underprivileged youth in limiting self-indulgence, not to restrict ourselves in the division of time studying and recreation. They prefer the recreational and hanging out with his friends, eventually learning task driven and received less attention. Young people who've grown up and still have not learned to limit myself to a strict division of time will experience failure in school. Thus a given age of maturity to be able to consider something, must be accompanied by self-discipline in terms of time studying, working and recreation as well as in the appropriate division of tasks and interactions.
b. The nature of courtshipPromiscuity, often begins with the association commonly known as dating. Maybe just two young people who come home from school and the direction of his journey to their homes, when home together then it is said to courtship. Learn and study together, have raised concerns on the parents because they imagined a "marriage". Though this association, in fact hanva a friendship or acquaintance a little more than usual. Actually, the association for businesses to know more profound need to increase knowledge about the individuals who will face later in adulthood.
There are times when a young man visited a young woman to borrow at record lessons. A young man helping a friend sekclasnya with mathematical problems. A young woman helping classmates with homework male foreign language.Upon their return the young man young woman was scolded their parents and boyfriends are not allowed to cross the threshold that house again, "do not deserve the kids who are still in school are going out."
It is totally inappropriate that school students have started dating, but adulthood and possible marriage is still too far away. However, whether the association in order to learn together is called dating?
From the examples approximately match with this example then it really depends on the people who assess the "courtship" is. When two young people who seem friendly are said to dating, it can be said that it was courting the lightest level. Thus, to avoid the ban will parents dating, then you should learn together done in groups of odd numbers ie, for example three or five people. Sesunggulinya courtship also include other elements, not just gather to learn, but there is an element of pleasure from the atmosphere when the two of that. There are feelings of rage arising from circumstances that meeting. As if there were "electrical currents" on both types were different beings. And the state is called "going out". Every touch, as if the cause electrical flow.
c. Level courtshipIf further feeling began to arise with the dating likened to an electric charge, then the distance between the two individuals who are experiencing will determine the level of courtship. The closer, the greater the likelihood of contact that can cause "kortsluiting" or the power that gave spark the fire of love-interest.
Similar to "kortsluiting" on electricity, then the flow can be useful and give power but can also bring danger of destructive fires, if not properly prepared and distributed.
Thus, youth, young adults are still far from being the ability to form a family, should be very careful with "playing with fire of love". Need to always remember the distance which must be maintained for the sake of "security" by both parties.Better to keep vigilant for the sake of peace and quiet. Often-times they are proud of the strength of conscience, eventually "burn" and fall because of momentary inadvertence. In the atmosphere of courtship vigilance must be tightened and faith should be strengthened in order to distance themselves from the temptations and distractions that easily arise and in order to attain the noble ideals.
Book- Psychology For Youth By Dr. Singgih D.gunarsa- Protecting Children From Sex Free By Merry Magdalena
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